“But why can’t you just travel for a year in the United States? There’s plenty to see around here.” She pleaded. I could see the fear and worry in her eyes and feel the concern as her voice cracked. This was my mother’s reaction 7 ½ years ago when I told her I was going to quit my job in a year and travel around the world.
I’ll never know what it’s like to be a mother – I’m sure that the worry about your kids never goes away. But her reaction honestly surprised me. Of course, I expected the motherly concern – but I didn’t understand how she could think travel in my own country would be as satisfying to me as the adventure that would wait outside my home borders with my passport in hand. After all – this was my mom, she was always the social, outgoing one. The one that was the wild woman in high school, always at odds with her father, who left her farm home after high school to go to secretarial school in the big city of Norfolk, Nebraska. The one that convinced me to go with her to a male strip show in a small town in South Dakota! But this was my first glance that maybe age had tamed her fire a bit.
I’ve written about it before – there seems to be some weird human formula that as we get older we become more scared. And not just scared for ourselves – but scared for everyone else. Scared of change, scared of new things, we want everything and everyone to just slow down and stay the same. At 43 there are days that I feel that formula takes hold in my mind and body. I try to shake it off by traveling. Travel forces me into uncomfortable situations, it brings on constant change, it pushes me and my brain into a more accepting space, of course, I travel because I love to see and experience new things.
A year ago – as I was hiking the Camino de Santiago I had been thinking about my upcoming trip to Antarctica with my father. At that time it was in the early discussion stages and we were trying to make it work without schedules and budgets. I felt so lucky that my dad is always so adventurous and willing to go anywhere with me even at the age of 77. And then it hit me – my dad gets to go everywhere with me – but what about mom?
Driving the Cabot Trail: A 1-Day Itinerary on Lovely Cape Breton
I realized that I hadn’t been fair I had taken Dad places because he and I were the same types of travelers – looking for places off the beaten path and adventures in foreign countries. But my mom…well…she’s not as adventurous. Even though she wasn’t thrilled about my big international career break, she obviously came to grips with my travel plans and of course, gave me her blessing – in a worried mother-type way. My mother loves to travel, but she’s not about to boldly go places outside the country by herself.
That day while walking the Camino de Santiago – I decided I would remedy the situation. I knew that she had always dreamt of going to Nova Scotia Canada and for some reason, my dad never got around to taking her – so now it was my turn. I emailed her that night from my albergue and told her I was going to take her to Nova Scotia – just her and I – for an international mother-daughter vacation.
As I type this we are on a train right now heading to Halifax Nova Scotia. It takes 2 days to get from Toronto to Halifax on the train – and this is my first train trip in Canada. Once in Halifax we are renting a car and doing a complete road trip around Nova Scotia. The only requests from my mom were to do a little hiking, see lighthouses, eat lobster, and see some Celtic dancing…all of this is possible in this scenic region of Canada!
Nova Scotia is supposed to have some of the most beautiful driving routes in the world – and I can hardly wait to hit the open road – and see where it takes us. But for me, this isn’t just about photographing beautiful views and seeing the sights – it’s really about spending some good quality time with my mom. And trust me – this isn’t going to be easy – I have never traveled like this with my mom, and I can imagine that there’s going to be some growing pains for each of us – which of course will make for some fun travel stories in the next few months!
You can follow along on this mother-daughter vacation live on my Facebook page – or follow #VisitNovaScotia or #momtrip on Twitter.
Have you ever gone on a mother-daughter trip? How did it turn out? Please share in the comments.
By Robert June 6, 2013 - 7:12 am
I’m flying off to Newfoundland today, but I’ll be driving back. When I cross over into Nova Scotia, I’ll be taking in the Cabot Trail. I’ve done it many times in the past, but I never tire of this spectacular scenic road trip. It’s not to be missed.
By Emily June 6, 2013 - 12:07 pm
When I was sixteen I did a music camp in Missouri and then instead of flying home to California, I met my mom in Portland. We spent a little over a week driving south, seeing the aquariums, the Redwoods, glass blowing artisans, and doing lots of singing with the car radio. One of my favorite mom memories ever and I feel lucky I got her all to myself when I was still a “kid”.
By Wynne June 6, 2013 - 3:47 pm
My mom and I traveled cross-country three times! Once as a vacation and once to move there (so one RT and once one-way). Quite the adventure, and we did (and do) have stories and memories and lots of laughs.
Our next big adventure will be my mom joining me sometime during the last three weeks I’m on my “sabbatical” this fall, spending Christmas with me in Italy. We can’t wait!
I’m so glad you and your mom are getting to do this together – priceless.
By Lynn June 6, 2013 - 6:29 pm
Sarah and I have taken a bunch of mom-daughter vacations: a Carribian cruise, an Arizona spa, New York, Montreal. I love traveling with my daughter and hope she is still up for the occasional mom vacation!
By Sherry June 6, 2013 - 9:30 pm
You two are so cute…and I can imagine that you would a blast together!
By Tonya June 6, 2013 - 6:49 pm
My sister and I are about to do our 2nd major trip with our mom. The first was Thailand for her 65th birthday and now it’s New York for her 70th. I’m thrilled that she wants to do these things and happy to do them with her while she can. Good on you for sharing this experience with your mom — you won’t regret it.
Nova Scotia might not be wildly exotic or overly ‘foreign’, but at least she’s willing to cross a border and realizing that there IS more world to see outside the USA 🙂
By Kim June 6, 2013 - 6:58 pm
You are a brave woman! I’ve thought about taking my mom on a trip this summer but I’m unsure how well we would handle each other. I look forward to reading your stories.
By Lance June 6, 2013 - 8:58 pm
Sherry:
I have a trip to promote to your blog followers. This was not a Mother/Daughter trip but a Father/Daughter road trip. Consider this trip, Coast to Coast across America. Hwy 50 goes all the way from San Francisco to Ocean City, Maryland. You follow one road sign the whole way and barely travel on any freeways. My daughter Lindsey & I did this and had an amazing time.
By Sherry June 6, 2013 - 9:29 pm
Cool – I”m always looking for interesting trips for my dad…Lord knows he loves traveling backroads!
By Lance June 6, 2013 - 11:12 pm
Here are some photos to get you motivated…..
View “Lindsey’s Hwy #50 Road Trip”
or this link if you can’t open that –
https://www.icloud.com/journal/#02;CAEQARoQVPwoy97JBZT5SZefYSbqEw;87A32626-110F-4C52-9C23-73D4184AE918
By Rob June 8, 2013 - 12:47 pm
Enjoyed your article and photos! Coming from the west coast of Canada, we traveled about Nova Scotia several years ago. A complete change from the west. Look forward to returning soon for more Lobster!
By Sherry June 8, 2013 - 9:29 pm
I have yet to have my first Nova Scotia Lobster – but anticipating it greatly!
By Kate - CanuckiwiKate June 10, 2013 - 6:32 pm
Yay – I am so excited you’re discovering my home and all it has to offer! was born in Kentville (in the Annapolis Valley), grew up in Bridgewater (on the South Shore) and now my parents in live in Yarmouth.
I’ve been away as an expat for the past almost 5 years… but will be returning in August (been driving from Vancouver since May!) and I can’t wait to redisover all my favourite childhood spots and new ones too, all with my kiwi boy! I
By Brittany @ Paws for Beer June 12, 2013 - 1:01 pm
My mom and I flew to Salt Lake City (from Idaho) for a Bon Jovi concert. Seems an extreme distance but that was as close to us as the tour was coming and it was BON JOVI after all 🙂 We had a great time together and as we were leaving the concert my mom said to me “that was the best concert of my life!” She passed away a few years later but that trip will always be one of my favorites because of how much fun we had together!
By Sherry June 12, 2013 - 10:12 pm
Love the fact that you mom loved Bon Jovi! A great story and time with family is always well spent!
By Kyla June 20, 2013 - 8:03 pm
Two years ago when my daughter was 7 and my mom 71 we went on our first annual “girls” trip. We have been to Auckland and Paihia NZ and Melbourne and this year is Sydney. It is so amazing to have 3 generations travelling together.
By MarkDeafMcGuire May 3, 2016 - 6:11 pm
I never really took separate parent trips, and I admit I will never be the “daughter” on those type of trips but I do travel with my parents often. They are in their 70s these days and it’s always something to experience. Times have changed for sure but we know now that we try our best to mix and match these experiences for all of our tastes.
For example, my parents now look to me to expose them to the local experience instead of relying on the usual travel recommendations, hotel concierge recommendations, and go somewhere that ends up being those wow moments. I know there are a few more trips left in them before they really start slowing down. It will be interesting to see where they join up with me once I hit the road for good.
I’m surprised you didn’t hop over to PEI when you were in Nova Scotia. Any reason why?
By Sherry May 4, 2016 - 11:23 am
I did go to PEI the next year with both of my parents! I loved it there!https://www.ottsworld.com/things-to-do-in-prince-edward-island-travel-guide/
My dad is going to be joining me soon again on my Spain hike in a few weeks – I”m nervous!